Our Adoption Journey
We like to believe difficult events in life can make you stronger, and that belief is what got us through our infertility diagnosis. When we first found out we could not conceive, we certainly did not feel stronger, and we could not understand why since we both knew we would be amazing parents. Then we realized it was not because we were not meant to be parents, it was because there were already children out there waiting for us. Finding those children has not been easy, but has definitely been the most rewarding part of our lives thus far.
When we first began our adoption journey, we had no idea where to begin. We looked at numerous agencies online and our searching lead us to Family Service Agency. We submitted our preliminary application to adopt and had anticipated the application to be the starting point to a long process. Little did we know, we would hear back from the agency in just a few short weeks with word of a possible baby! We rushed to complete the application and prepare a dear birthparents letter. Our letter was presented to the birthmother and she chose us to her baby’s family. We were overjoyed and hurried to go through the remainder of the adoption process as the baby was due in just a few months. We met the birthmother on several occasions and felt really comfortable with the situation. We could almost envision our baby coming home to us. Life, however is never as simple as we would like it to be. As her due date came and went, we were unable to make contact with the birthmother and the agency was not able to get into contact with her either, so our stomach were turning as we were unsure what was to casino online come. Then on a rainy evening, we received a call from the adoption agency asking us to come down. We both knew it was not going to be good news.
They told us they were pretty sure the birthmother had changed her mind which was why we could not get in contact with her. We were heart broken as we were truly anticipating bringing the baby home any day and our hearts were ready for a baby, not for bad news. Luckily the agency followed this terrible news with news that was life changing news.
There was another baby who was due at any time. They wanted to know if we wanted to present our dear birthparent letter. Of course we wanted to be presented! Our letter was presented to the birthmother and she chose us to be her child’s forever family. We were once again ecstatic, but a bit apprehensive as to how everything would turn out. This
birthmother was not quite as sure with her decision and the agency told us there was a good chance she would change her mind once she saw her baby. He was born, but because he was part Native American, needed to go through a special court hearing which could not occur until ten days after his birth. The birthmother was standing by her decision, but she had decided to keep him with her until the court hearing. We just could not imagine how she would be able to place him for adoption after having him at home with her for that long so we tried everything to stay calm and positive while we waited. Due to issues contacting the birthfather and setting up a court date, we did not have to wait ten long days for the hearing to occur, but rather we had to wait for over three weeks. The birthmother decided that period of time was too long for her so the baby went into foster care after being with her for a week and a half. We waited on pins and needles for another week and a half.
It all worked out as our sweet little boy was welcomed into the world on May 18th and welcomed into our lives on June 13th. He has shown us what true love is and we simply cannot imagine our lives without him. He is more than we could ever have hoped for and has made every second of our adoption journey well worth it. We are now on another journey and are looking forward to the day we get to bring him home a brother or sister!